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... I didn't drink or drug so I'll count that as today's victory. My daily victory.
Good for you.
Daily victories are important, especially when it feels like so much of the world is against you.
You know where to find me.....
xoxo


Wow, it's a sad story but bless your heart for wanting to be around your daughter. Hang in there!
Hang in there, for your daughter.
First, glad to here you are coping without drink or drug. :) good job.

Bravo for making choices that put your daughter first.

I'll be keeping your goings on in my thoughts and prayers.

you might not really want my two cents, but you know I can't help but try to help - so please forgive me: move to your Mom's and get yourself in a position to take care of your daughter in the future. Living in your current situation or car or shelter is going to deal a bigger blow to your self-esteem than moving in with Mom. You need all of your confidence to survive and turn this thing around. Living in your car or in a homeless shelter is going to make staying sober and upbeat harder. You have worked so hard to achieve such monumental steps on your own. Now it is time to let others help you. That is what family is for and all about. In a nutshell, go to Mom's, keep yourself healthy, find work elsewhere and get back on your feet - for yourself AND your daughter.

Thanks 'K' - that is pretty much what everyone says. I understand the rationale. There are 3 camps on this issue. I've asked friends, family, internet strangers, other addicts, former bosses, and my sponsor.

Camp 1 - leave and go stay with mom until I get back on my feet.
Camp 2 - go to a shelter, support your daughter emotionally.
Camp 3 - take the job offers that relocate me out of state, but don't move home.

No one supports the license plate as an address plan - including me. All of these have similar upsides so I focused on the downside. Options 1 and 3 have the downside of being away from Becca for 2-4-6 months.

To a 5 y/o two months is an eternity. So, I have to stay and be a regular fixture in my daughter's life even if it means staying in shelters. I am not afraid of this now - I have my head held hi. Truth be told, living in a shelter would probably help me gain even more humility and further eradicate any remaining amounts of arrogance and self-centeredness that I still have in me.

I appreciate all feedback - pro or con... K, I especially welcome yours. A couple posts you made back in '06 still resonate with me - I think I'm still being 'baked' for something amazingly better.



Job in another state? If it is a step sideways with upward potential - take it!

Thanks for your reply Joey. You know I care. Take care of yourself so you can care for others.

Good Luck.

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